Single? Here are 4 ways to be happy about it

“Happy and single” may have sounded like a paradox once, but in today’s world relationship expectations are changing and are more varied than ever. A growing percentage of young adults in America are single, compared to the percentage in previous generations, whether because they prefer to be so or they place greater emphasis on finding the right person. The security and health benefits marriage used to bring to couples may not be as touted as they once were. Research on whether committed couples are happier than their single counterparts is becoming more varied, showing that there is no one size fits all approach to relationships and happiness outcomes.

If you’re single and not loving it, here are four ways to find meaningful and independent happiness outside of a relationship.

1. Change your way of thinking

To be happy and single may take a different kind of awareness, because it has not been the status quo for our society. Marriage or romantic partnership has traditionally been considered a cornerstone of health and a touchpoint for a successful life. However, as we move into a time period that is more progressive toward relationships, the pressures and expectations of these are different. You don’t have to take your parents’ or grandparents’ approach to relationships as a road map. This is your journey.

2. Expand your network

Humans generally have a greater sense of emotional and physical wellbeing when they have companionship. We are relational and social creatures that need a sense of community and connection to feel complete, but this doesn’t need to be romantic. An active social life and sense of independence are necessary for anyone, single or not. If our close personal network is strong, we feel happier. This means not relying solely on one person, such as your partner or best friend, but expanding to include close relationships with family and friends as well.